Reminding Your Network That You're Looking
By Jessica Holbrook HernandezRecently I spoke with a woman who has been looking for work for some time. She devotes a significant amount of time each week to networking activities. She said something that stood out to me: “I wake up every day and think about being unemployed, but my contacts don’t think about me until I remind them”.
Remind your contacts that you’re
looking
All too often, those who are looking for work feel
embarrassed to repeatedly go to their contacts and mention that
they aren’t working. Because of this, one of the key
components of networking with people you already know is talking
with them about subjects outside of work. Invite them to coffee and
talk to them about their kids. Have people who are well connected
over for a cookout; this allows your contacts an opportunity to
help you out but keeps your relationship on the equal footing upon
which it was founded.
Be prepared when people ask about your job
search
If you think about it, there are a lot of people in
your life who may not really understand what you do. My own parents
are a perfect example! Because you want your contacts to think
strategically about how their network can help you, it’s
really important to have a quick summary of your career goals (aka
your elevator pitch) ready to go when they ask. Keeping it short
and sweet not only keeps their attention but helps them to remember
what you said two weeks later when they run into a perfect contact
for you.
Keep yourself busy in the meantime
It’s truly difficult to feel equal to your
peers who are working when you are not. After all, your daily lives
are substantially different—they get dressed and go to work
every day. One way to mitigate feeling like the odd man out is to
keep yourself as busy as possible. Whether you fill your time with
volunteer work, continuing education, networking, or all of the
above, staying busy keeps you emotionally fulfilled and interesting
which makes your contacts want to be around you and help you
out.
As long as you have a clear career goal and keep
yourself busy working toward it, there’s no reason to be
embarrassed about reminding your network that you’re still
job searching. As my colleague said, they’re not thinking
about you unless you remind them!



