Did you ever go to a job interview, excited for the opportunity, only to wind up wondering later what went wrong? Have you ever taken a job despite the fact that all your instincts were screaming at you to say no?
By utilizing emotional intelligence, smart professionals manage their emotional responses to challenging interview questions, and interpret signals that interviewers are sending (whether intentional or not.)
So what are the three interview secrets your emotional intelligence is trying to tell you during the interview process?
Stop talking so much.
The big mistake many of us make when we get nervous in the job interview is to keep talking. Instead of talking to fill space and ease your nerves, pause, and take a deep breath.
Observe the signals that the interviewer is sending. Did he or she sit back in their chair and cross their arms over their chest about a third of the way through your lengthy speech? This reaction could signal disbelief or boredom. Once you have crossed the threshold into negative emotions, it is hard to recover.
Are they still leaning forward with an inquisitive look on their face? This response could signal interest or confusion. Either way, check in after your pause and ask, “Have I answered your question?”
Leave your skepticism about job interviews outside the door.
Have you interviewed for multiple positions during your job search? If so, you may feel jaded about certain interview questions, because you have heard them before, or the question seems contrived.
You may be sending unintentional signals in the job interview with that internal eye-roll. Your facial expressions or body language may show a glimpse of this negative emotional response.
It’s time to freshen up your attitude and bring your “A” game, at least until you’ve established positive rapport. Once you have cleared that hurdle, you can steer the interview into a give-and-take dialogue.
Start listening to your intuition and ask follow-up questions.
We all love a challenge, but let’s be realistic. The interviewer who is rude or says negative things about current or past employees, then laughs it off, will only get worse once you are on-board. Don’t be tempted to think you will be the one who is tough enough or smart enough to get this guy to see the error of his ways.
These interview secrets are a great place to get your job interviews turned in the right direction. You can build on these skills by practicing with a colleague or career coach who will give you constructive feedback and guidance.